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I did not retire at 29.

I’m way past 29 years old. I am fairly certain that I will not even be able to retire by the time I am two times twenty-nine. I am still going to school, ever in the search for a way to be sure that I will be able to work until I die.

I wish I could have retired at 29.

I love not working. I love to work, but I prefer that it be what I want to do. If I could do anything in the world, with unlimited funds, I’d travel and photograph and work with glass and wood and clay.

There still could be hope for me (and you).

Maybe I can still learn from this young and savvy person about how to save and someday have enough money to be able to retire.

29 Steps I Took to Leave the Workforce at Age 29

29 Steps I Took to Leave the Workforce at Age 29 by Harsha M V

Read it, and learn from youth.

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What Can One Person Do?

Do you ever feel helpless in the face of all that is going on in the world? What can one person do?

I’m just one person. What can I do about global warming?

It is estimated that 50 million people globally took part in the Earth Hour 2008 event.

Turn Out the Lights

In 2007, the people of the city of Sydney, Australia led the way by turning off the lights for one hour. They showed us what one person can do by joining together and being a multitude of “1 person”s. In 2008, 50, million people around the globe participated in Earth Hour.

CHICAGO — The lights are going down from the Great Pyramids to the Acropolis, the Eiffel Tower to Sears Tower, as more than 2,800 municipalities in 84 countries plan Saturday to mark the second worldwide Earth Hour.

“Earth Hour makes a powerful statement that the world is going to solve this problem,” said Carter Roberts, chief executive of the World Wildlife Fund, which sponsors Earth Hour. “Everyone is realizing the enormous effect that climate change will have on them.” (huffingtonpost.com)

Watch the Earth Hour 2009 video

Would you like to know more about it? Watch the Earth Hour 2009 video.

Official Earth Hour 2009 video. Earth Hour is on March 28th, 2009 at 8:30pm. More at http://www.earthhour.org

Support Earth Hour by making your own video and adding it to our Earth Hour Global group here:
http://www.youtube.com/group/earthhourglobal

Earth Hour images can be downloaded and shared from our flickr photostream, including Shepard Fairey Vote Earth artwork: http://www.flickr.com/photos/earthhour_global/

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Earth Hour
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Earth Hour 2009: The world is getting ready

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Cell Phone and Spin Cycle

Years ago, and on a different blog, I wrote about washing my cell phone in the pocket of my uniform pants.  The terrible realization struck when I heard the washer start the spin cycle. I reached for the phone and it was not there. That story turned out well, and I wrote a post praising the good people at the Cingular Wireless store in Tulsa, Oklahoma.

Cell Phone and Dish Water

Now, again, I am at a turning point. My phone was sitting on something between the dish rack and the sink just now, while I was washing dishes.  I put one more item on the stack of clean dishes, and in an instant, the last item fell and hit the cell phone.  Before I could react, the phone was in the dish water.

Cell Phone and Blow Dryer

I pulled the phone out of the water in less than two seconds, but it was too late.  I tried drying it with a cloth. I tried drying it with a blow dryer. I took it apart, shook it, and blow dried it some more. No luck. Bye-bye cell phone.

Life Before Cell Phones

As for most of you, this is a potential crisis. How does one live without a cell phone?  I exaggerate only a little. We all lived well enough before cell phones. We probably drove more carefully and were more polite in stores and restaurants. But, we grew dependent. Now, we don’t know how we’ll make it without our communication devices.

A Turning Point

So, I am at a turning point. I’ve been back in NC since the middle of 2007. It’s now almost the 4th month of 2009, and I still have a Tulsa cell phone number. I kept it to make it easier for people in Tulsa to call me without paying for long distance, you know? But, that was silly. Only a few people from there ever call me anyway, and most of them have cell phones. And, cell phones call anywhere. So, why have I not just changed my number? I don’t know.

A Good Thing?

Maybe not having a cell phone will be a good thing. Maybe I’ll go places extra early, because I won’t be able to call and let them know if my tire blows out. Maybe I’ll keep both hands on the wheel and talk to myself instead of the person at the other end of the microwaves. Maybe I’ll spend more time alone when I’m at home, doing things around the house and in the yard, without the company of someone on the other end of the signal.

A New Phone?

Or, maybe I’ll just get a new phone. I’ll get a phone with a North Carolina phone number. I’ll  cancel that old number. Maybe it’s time. Maybe this is my chance to move on to something new. Maybe I can use this tiny turning point as something symbolic, something bigger. New phone, new number, new life. (Silly, isn’t it, since the ‘new life’ part began as soon as I drove out of my Tulsa driveway for the last time. Any move to another part of the country is, in itself, the beginning of a new life, no matter what ties remain.)

Cutting Ties, Moving Ahead

This is okay. This can be my moment to cut one more tie to the past and add one more link to my current life and keep moving forward. There is symbolism in everything. Ha! Or, there is not.

Bottom Line

The bottom line is that I now need a new phone, so I might as well sign a contract, get a new phone with a local phone number and bundle it with my home phone and internet. It’s time to take the plunge. My phone did! lol. It looks like it’s time for me to do it, too.

Please Participate!

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TerrenceDC over at Pam’s House Blend has put up some posts looking at what’s going on in the economy. Take a look:

What’s Wrong With Wall Street?, Pt. 1

What’s Wrong With Wall Street, Pt. 2

What’s Wrong With Wall Street, Pt. 3

Related:

NO SHAME: AIG EXECS WHO RUINED COMPANY TO GET $100 MILLION IN BONUSES
AIG Has Received Massive Government Bailout Of Over $170 Billion… Geithner Calls AIG Chairman Liddy To Protest… Liddy Responds: We’re Contractually Obligated To Pay Them

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G.W. Bush Opposed Limits On Executive Compensation

Bush and the GOP Opposed Executive Compensation Caps

It is a rather curious spectacle to see congressional Republicans express outrage at the exorbitant bonuses being handed out by bailed-out companies and blame the Obama administration for failing to curb the practice with AIG. Because when the first installment of the Troubled Asset Relief Program was passed it was the Bush administration and GOPers in Congress who were insisting that caps on executive compensation not be part of the legislation.

The Hypocrisy Continues

Republicans Who Opposed Wall Street Salary Caps Last Month Now Condemning ‘Outrageous’ AIG Bonuses

As outrage mounts over the $165 million in executive bonuses paid to AIG staffers, many Republicans are trying to tap into the widespread public anger by striking uncharacteristically populist tones.

However, when Congress debated limiting executive pay last month, these same key Republican lawmakers stood firm in opposing such caps.

Huffington Post
Think Progress

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This was in my incoming email the other day. I thought you might be interested.

Burger King employees did not have it their way

Dear Friends, Colleagues and Supporters,

What would you do with an extra $18,000 in your pocket?

That’s the amount of extra cash each and every Burger King employee in America would have received last year if Goldman Sachs (one of the fast-food chain’s largest owners) had shared its bailout billions with rank-and-file workers. Instead, Goldman Sachs squandered 6.5 billion of our taxpayer dollars on bonuses for their financial staff. These were some of the highest bonuses on Wall Street! Meanwhile, Burger King workers earn wages averaging just $14,000 a year — well below the federal poverty line for a family of three.

Watch the harmful effects of Wall Street’s greed: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wABI2dwbQMQ

Goldman Sachs has been having it their way with Burger King workers for too long. It’s high time you had it your way with Goldman Sachs. Tell the Wall Street giant how they could have used the $6.5 billion blown on bonuses. We’re looking for the most creative, constructive, or comical ideas to curb corporate greed and help fix the financial crisis. We will send all ideas to Goldman Sachs as a reprimand for their wastefulness. The winner of the Have It Your Way with Goldman Sachs contest will have their idea featured in our next video. The contest ends March 3.

Pass this video and contest to your friends and family, and don’t forget to digg it. Tell them working people all over the country are pushing back against Wall Street excess. Tell them we’re joining with SEIU and others to stage demonstrations and hold Goldman Sachs accountable! And tell them it’s time to end this era of corporate greed and impunity.

Yours,
Robert Greenwald
and the Brave New Films team

P.S. – Do you think Goldman Sachs should be forced to give back their bailout money to taxpayers, should they have to raise Burger King workers’ wages, explain their spending to the government, or be left alone because they are living the American dream? Vote now in our online poll.

Brave New Films | 10510 Culver Blvd., Culver City, CA 90232

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Remember Margaret and Helen?

Margaret and Helen

Best Friends for Sixty Years and Counting…

Forcing herself to read Ann Coulter’s new book

Helen is forcing herself to read Ann Coulter’s new book in order to write up some Hell’n notes for Margaret.

Helen’s Writing Style

Start with this post, to get a feel for Helen’s writing style:

Kiss My 83 Year Old Ass

Then, read her Hell’n notes for her friend Margaret:

Apparently Ann Coulter’s feet are as big as an Emu’s
Ann Coutler Almost Failed Obedience School
Come Ann Coulter or High Water
Ann Coulter: Guilty
Does Ann Coulter Have Opposable Thumbs?
If Ann Coulter falls in the forest and nobody hears her… can we just leave her there?
Ann Coulter Is Just Not That Into Anyone
Coulter and Bush sitting in a tree…K.I.S.S.I.N.G

More Margaret and Helen:

Margaret and Helen

Margaret’s Recent Posts About the “Leader” of the Republican Party

If the Republicans want new leadership, they simply need to flush
Rush Limbaugh – King of the Idiots
Rush, shut the hell up. You’re not helping.

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It looks like it’s already been redefined.

Now the lexicographers have documented it.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/marriage

1 a (2): the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage (same-sex marriage)

(h/t PHB)

RELATED:

WHAT KIND OF WORLD DO YOU WANT? (video)

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Join Our Community and Allies at the National Equality Rally at Independence Hall on Sunday, May 3rd, in Philadelphia. Make your voice heard! Make History!
(www.nationalequalityrally.org)

The GLBT civil rights movement began 40 years ago in Philadelphia. While we’ve come a long way moving closer and closer toward Equality, there is still much to do. We must call on our government to protect our community in the workplace and beyond with trans-inclusive ENDA and hate crime legislation, to give us full status as Americans by repealing “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” and the federal DOMA, and to care for our widespread community concerns by addressing and funding GLBT health issues and legalizing and honoring our partnerships and families by giving us marriage and all the benefits and responsibilities that come with it

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Red State Sex Ed For Teens

You know I like these Red State guys. I’m not sure why. I guess it’s the satire that I enjoy.

In this case, it’s just direct talk in classic Red State style. You want to see the video? Here it is: Red State Sex Ed For Teens

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Related:

The hypocrisy of the mom who told everyone to stay away from her kids during the election, who now seems to ignore attacks by right-wing, fundamentalist religious abstinence-only groups on her eldest daughter after she said that abstinence is not realistic. Why would she not be the mother bear she claimed to be during the election? Could it have anything to do with the fact that the people who are attacking her daughter are the people she hopes will vote for her in the 2012 election?

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UPDATE: This was set to post automatically, scheduled a month ago, before Bristol and Levi announced that they won’t be getting married and are no longer a couple. I wish the best to Bristol Palin, Levi Johnson and Tripp.

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Sister Friends Together

I found Sister Friends Together on Carol Boltz’s blog list. Anita, the author of Sister Friends Together, writes well and is well worth reading.

The Straight Pill

It’s a poem. What did she say about a ‘straight pill’?

…....I would not take it.

…....I would not take it.

…....I. Would. Not. Take. It.

Why not take a ‘straight pill’?

….... I love being who I am

…....I love being whole and free

…….I love seeing the world from where I stand

…....I love knowing God from this place

What if it would make someone else be straight?

She says:

You are gay.

…..God loves you.

…..…..God holds you.

…..…..…..God stands with you.

…..…..…..…..God delights in you.

…..…..…..…..…..God calls you “My own.”

The Straight Pill

Read it all. It will only take a moment. You won’t be sorry.

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Life is filled with surprises.

Some are tragic endings to days that began quite nicely.

“Start by admitting from cradle to doom isn’t that long a stay. Life is a cabaret old chum, only a cabaret old chum. And, I love a cabaret!”

Condolences to your family. You will be remembered by a larger family.

h/t Good-As-You

RELATED:

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SLIDESHOWS: Natasha And Liam In Pictures…

Natasha Richardson And Vanessa Redgrave In Pictures (PHOTOS)

Natasha Richardson: A Daughter Of The Theater

Natasha Richardson: 1963-2009

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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Contact: Toby Jenkins

President

Oklahomans for Equality

toby.jenkins@okeq.org

(918) 743-4297

www.okeq.org

Oklahoma School District Suppresses Free Speech

Tulsa, Okla – March 13, 2009

Oklahomans for Equality, PFLAG Tulsa, and Open Arms Youth Project have been monitoring a school controversy in Grandfield, Oklahoma where a teacher was recently suspended for teaching The Laramie Project, the play about the murder of Matthew Shepard, the gay college student who was killed in Wyoming.

Debra Taylor, who teaches the Ethics and Street Law class, was using pieces of the play to help her students examine how hatred and intolerance can be justified by attitudes within a community.  Midway through the unit, Superintendent Ed Turlington told her to stop teaching the material. While attending an English class later in the day, the students complained about the unit being discontinued. The English teacher, the Superintendent’s wife had the Superintendent come and reprimand the class. Students report he used hateful speech saying how much he disliked gays and blaming them for AIDS.

A week later Debra Taylor, after being told to discontinue the unit held a mock funeral for the play to give her students closure and help them move on past the controversy.  She was subsequently suspended. She has now accepted a resignation agreement, as she feared that she would otherwise be terminated. Her students are standing behind the play and their teacher.

PFLAG Tulsa chapter President Nancy McDonald says “It is a sad day for Oklahoma students when the academic freedom of a master teacher and her judgment is questioned on the use of an appropriate model to educate on ethics regarding hate crimes and social injustice. The response of the Superintendent of the Grandfield, Oklahoma School District is not in concert with the intent of the course description.  This is an example of the need for educating adminstrators, teachers and citizens about hate crimes based on sexual orientation.”

Tim Gillean, President of the Board of Directors of Open Arms Youth Project, Tulsa’s Only GLBTQ youth center said “Schools are supposed to be a safe sanctuary for all Oklahoma students, apparently Grandfield needs a lot of work in this area”.

TAKE ACTION NOW: call Superintendent Turlington at 580-479-5237 or send an email to eturlington@grandfield.k12.ok.us and tell him to reinstate Debra Taylor.

TAKE ACTION NOW: Write the Grandfield School Board

Grandfield School Board
Attention: Jeff Coody, Matt Clemmer,
Ronnie Lindsey, Danny Palmer, & Ben Bryan
811 W. 4th
Grandfield, Oklahoma 73546

Tell them Debra Taylor did not deserve this kind of treatment. Young people need dedicated teachers willing to confront issues of respect, hate crimes, religious based violence, and acceptance for people of all sexual orientations. She should be commended for creating a safe space for her students to discuss issues of injustice and should be reinstated immediately.

TAKE ACTION NOW: Contact our State School Superintendent and register a complaint.

State Superintendent Sandy Garrett
State Department of Education
2500 North Lincoln Boulevard
Oklahoma City, OK 73105-4599
Phone: (405) 521-3301
Email: Sandy_Garrett@sde.state.ok.us

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Founded in 1980, Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) is the state’s oldest and largest gay rights organization. Oklahomans for Equality seeks equal rights for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals and families through advocacy, education, programs, alliances, and the operation of the Dennis R. Neill Community Center

This letter was printed with prior written permission from Toby Jenkins, President,Oklahomans for Equality

Related:OK: teacher fired for showing film version of ‘The Laramie Project’

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Zoe Brain’s Blog – A.E.Brain

For awhile last year, I read Zoe Brain’s blog almost every day, and we exchanged a few emails. She answered questions and allowed me to share her answers with others. She is a believer in moving a mountain ‘a teaspoon at a time.’

Reading again after a long absence

For a longer time since then, I slipped out of the ‘daily reading’ category. Recently, I visited her blog again, read a few of the most recent posts and left comments.

Still learning to be an advocate

I’m still learning, and I hope to continue to learn until I can be an adequate advocate. I thought of a response after a recent conversation with someone (a super-nice person, by the way) who said, “I believe God created men and women …” leading to the belief that transsexuality is ‘wrong’. I thought later that I should have said, “We can believe what we want, but that does not change the reality that there are people who are transsexual. Their existence does not depend upon our belief in them. They exist. Who are we to disbelieve?”

Please correct my terminology and any misconceptions

I would like comments from men and women who are transgendered. Please correct me on terminology and science as needed.

Recent comments on two of Zoe’s posts:

on this post, Friday, 20 February 2009, From a Canon Lawyer, I had a question:

deb said…

I’ve not been reading here for awhile, and I’m way behind on the definition that transexuals are neurologically intersexed. Zoe, maybe you can send me a note about this and further my education. :)

The topic of ‘transexuals’ has come up at work, several times recently, and I’ve tried to present the ‘in the wrong body’ explanation to those who say, “I believe God makes people male and female.”

Is ‘neurologically intersexed’ the current way of describing the experience of being transexual? Are the brains of transexual persons more like the ‘other’ sex than like the one whose phyical characteristics they have?

If there really is, or might be, some kind of measurable brain differences then surely there will some day be a greater understanding and acceptance. I tried to suggest to a coworker that if the world were neutral and accepting, then people would not feel the need to try to live a life that feels wrong. (This also applies to all the gay people who have married with the hope that it will make them heterosexual.) I don’t think she was very open to that idea, but at least it was spoken aloud. A spoonful at a time, right Zoe?

Zoe’s reply in a comment:

Zoe Brain said…Deb,

Some of the many papers are easily available online.

Male-to-female transsexuals show sex-atypical hypothalamus activation when smelling odorous steroids. by Berglund et al

Male–to–female transsexuals have female neuron numbers in a limbic nucleus. Kruiver et al J Clin Endocrinol Metab (2000) 85:2034–2041.

Sexual differentiation of the human brain: relevance for gender identity, transsexualism and sexual orientation. Swaab Gynecol Endocrinol (2004) 19:301–312.

A sex difference in the human brain and its relation to transsexuality. by Zhou et al Nature (1995) 378:68–70.

And many more. The brain, and in particular the lymbic nucleus, is sexually dimorphic. One pattern is typically male, the other typically female, though the patterns vary between individuals.

It was as far back as 2003 when the Full Bench of the Australian Family Court said:

At paragraph [252]: ‘The traditional analysis that they are “psychologically” transsexual does not explain how this state came about. For example, there seems to be no suggestion in the evidence that their psychological state can be explained by reference to circumstances of their upbringing. In that sense, the brain sex theory does not seem to be competing with other explanations, but rather is providing a possible explanation of what is otherwise inexplicable’.

At paragraph [253]: ‘In other words (as I understand it) the brain of an individual may in some sense be male, for example, though the rest of the person’s body is female’.

At paragraph [265]: ‘In my view the argument in favour of the “brain sex” view is also based on evidence about the development and experience of transsexuals and others with atypical sex-related characteristics. There is a vast literature on this, some of which is in evidence, and I can do no more than mention briefly some of the main points’.

At paragraph [270]: ‘But I am satisfied that the evidence now is inconsistent with the distinction formerly drawn between biological factors, meaning genitals, chromosomes and gonads, and merely “psychological factors”, and on this basis distinguishing between cases of inter-sex (incongruities among biological factors) and transsexualism (incongruities between biology and psychology)’.

At paragraph [272]: ‘In my view the evidence demonstrates (at least on the balance of probabilities) that the characteristics of transsexuals are as much “biological” as those of people thought of as inter-sex’.

Source: Deakin Law Review.

There’s also a pile of papers not easily accessible. The German and Swiss studies using fMRI techniques are now mapping the extent of the cross-gendering, not merely confirming its existence.

It appears that not just the lymbic nucleus, the “reptile part” of the brain is affected, but some higher brain functions too. We’re talking about physical differences, things visible using imaging techniques, in areas of the brain we knew beforehand are sexually dimorphic, where men differ from women.

My reply:

d said…

Zoe, Thanks for the info. I hope it’s okay to pass this along. This will help me make a more intelligent response when the topic turns to people not ‘believing’ in the reality of TS people.

on this post, Monday, 23 February 2009, One Woman’s Story, it was so easy to see that a ‘gender neutral’ would would make all the difference in the world. By ‘gender neutral’ I do not mean we do not reconize gender, our own or that of others. I simply mean, if we did not judge people by their gender, or what we perceive it to be, or what we think it should be, there would be so much less pain for so many people. My comment:

deb said…

Wow! I tried to comment on the Salon post, but I’m not a Salon member. So, please just send her my, “Wow! What a moving story!” comment.

I’m imagining how different her life would have been if gender had been a non-issue with those who rejected her (just as if sexual orientation were a non-issue for those who reject lesbian and gay people).

I’m glad (and amazed) that she was able to move to another country and raise enough money to get the surgery and now have a happier life.

All through the story, I was wondering if this would be a good story to print and show to the people who say, “I believe God made people male and female …” I’m glad this story has a happy ending (and, glad the two of you were able to meet).

Zoe’s reply:

Zoe Brain said…

I did leave a comment, but she decided to delete it.

She’s Deep Stealth, and there’s too many connections between us. She’d prefer it if I didn’t comment further.

It’s a pity, she omitted much of her story. But as the details might possibly help identify her, it will remain untold.

She’s not the only person whose life I could destroy if I said too much. “We walk among you” as was said in TransAmerica. I’m part of the 1 in 10 who are not Stealth.

In a related story, Jim Burroway of Box Turtle Bulletin, wrote recently about transgendered vets in Tuscon, Arizona.

From Autumn Sandeen on Pam’s House Blend, Transgender Veterans Care: Under Review?

MORE FROM ZOE BRAIN:

Tuesday, 24 February 2009 The Evidence

TRANSGENDER IN THE BIBLE:

Confusion Over Gender by Some Religious Leaders

VIDEO

Medical Arrogance
Intersex Infant Surgical Abuse

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I made this night light near the end of February 2009. It is made entirely of red and yellow glass globs (nuggets) with solder in between. I didn’t really like it when I finished it, but when I plugged it in, it gave a soft, warm glow.

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An Open Letter to Exodus – Peterson Toscano

Peterson Toscano is a man who is an EX-ex-gay. He’s one of the people who lived through the ex-gay movement and now tells others what it’s all about.

His post begins with this paragraph:

Many of you know about an ex-gay conference that took place this past weekend in Uganda. (You can read several articles about this over at Box Turtle Bulletin) US-based promoters and providers of ex-gay treatments have increasingly sought ways to export their ideologies internationally with varying degrees of success and failure. This most recent mission trip to Uganda, a country that punishes gays with life long prison sentences, reaches new heights of irresponsibility.

Read the open letter to Exodus here.

The danger of “ex-gay” and “reparative therapy” groups

If you don’t believe there is something wrong with organizations who make it their business to try to tell people they are not okay the way they are, and need to fundamentally change their nature (or, at least deny it for the rest of their lives), read Peterson Toscano’s blog or read Christine Bakke’s blog.

The danger of exporting anti-gay attitudes to other countries

You don’t think there is a danger in exporting the anti-gay teachings of the ex-gay movement to other countries, especially those who already are guilty of human rights abuses?  See the horrors that take place when people believe non-heterosexual people are less than equal and less than human. Huffington post has the most recent story:South Africa: ‘Corrective Rape’ Spreads To ‘Fix’ Lesbians

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