Stats For This WordPress Site
WordPress is such a great platform for so many thousands of people who write and post their thoughts online. It’s free, and it’s easy to use. One of the features I use is the Stats page on Dashboard. It shows a graph of the changing numbers of visitors each day, and it shows referrers, search terms, posts visited and links clicked.
The Referrers List Led Me To This Post
On my referrers list at the start of this month, there was a link to a search engine page with a search for ‘Carol Boltz’. I looked at the results on that page, and found a post someone wrote last September. In that post, the writer made statements about the much-loved, much-praised Christian singer Ray Boltz. That post was written after Ray Boltz’s interview in the Washington Blade, and it criticized his faith and his integrity.
Not One To Keep A Reply To Myself … Sometimes
Often I read stories online and I take a deep breath, maybe sigh a deep sigh, and I close the page, sure that it’s better for me not to get involved. Other times, more often, I save the links to stories I feel like I want to comment on. Then, most often, I do not have the opportunity to follow through by writing a post about the story.
This Was One of the Times I Chose to Respond Directly
I was looking at all the links returned by a search for Carol Boltz. The search engine had referred someone to my page. I wanted to see where else they sent people. That was how I stumbled upon the post that questioned Ray Boltz’s faith and his integrity. I began writing a comment, and before long, it was longer than some of my posts. So, I decided to turn it into a post.
This Is The Comment I Left
What I see here is that you (author and most commenters) view homosexuality as being only about sex, and as sin, rather than as the way a person is. It appears that you do not believe in the existence of homosexuality as being about who someone is and who someone loves.
Homosexuality is about having one’s primary orientation for a loving relationship be towards someone of the same sex. Heterosexuality is about having one’s primary orientation for a loving relationship be towards someone of the same sex. Same-sex attraction is the same as opposite-sex attraction, only it is for a person of the same sex.
I feel certain that any of you would not say that your loving relationship is only about sex. You talk, you cook meals, you clean, you take care of the children, you pay bills, you go places together, to do projects, you go to work, you pay taxes, you go to church, you take vacations. Sometimes you have sex, but it is not the only thing you share. It is the same for people whose desire for a loving relationship is for someone of the same sex.
Jesus never said a single word against homosexuals. He did, however, say much about heterosexuals who are divorced. I do not see churches insisting that heterosexual people who are divorced never again enter into a relationship that involves love and emotional and sexual intimacy.
This is not about love the sinner hate the sin. This is about “judge not that ye be not judged.” This is about taking the log out of your own eye before you try to pull the splinter out of someone else’s.
Until divorced people never remarry and never again have sex, no one in the church has any business cherry-picking scripture to try to say homosexuals cannot be in loving relationships and be loved by and accepted by God at the same time.
For those who insist on believing that there is no such thing as a same-sex sexual orientation, and that attraction to to a person of the same sex is nothing more than a heterosexual person having sinful thoughts, think again. If you are attracted to people who are your same sex, you are most likely homosexual or bisexual. Your desire is not a sexual addiction or a temptation for sexual sin that is attacking you as a heterosexual person. It is something that is a part of you.
If you are attracted to persons who are your same sex, and you are living in a heterosexual marriage in order to try to cure yourself of those thoughts, you are living a lie. You are the one who is living the lie and behaving in an unnatural way. Ray Boltz’s ex-wife Carol has chosen to open her heart to those who are in this situation, both the gay married partners and the straight partners of the gay husbands or wive.
Carol Boltz is a wonderful, open, loving Christian woman who loves God and loves people. If you want to believe anyone, believe Carol. She knows that homosexuality is not about being a straight man with attractions to other men. She knows it is not something a person chooses to feel. She knows that a person’s sexual orientation is a part of who that person is. Read her blog and find the information and the support and encouragement you need. http://myheartgoesout-carol.blogspot.com/
+ My typos are addressed in the second comment I left on that post.
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