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Here’s an idea. Don’t make any resolutions.

Christine Hassler has an alternative to New Year’s Resolutions. She says we should “Ring In The New Year In A New Way

Most of us start the New Year with the greatest of intentions of
keeping our resolutions, yet by March (or even by the second week in
January) we may not find ourselves so “resolved.” We revert back to old
patterns and our resolutions become as nostalgic as the person we
kissed at midnight. Could there be a different approach to kicking off
2009 that serves us better?

Every year, I take a different approach to resolutions. I resolve
not to make any. I realized focusing on how to make myself or something
in my life more, better, or different was not particularly inspiring.
Instead, I take a new approach to January – the month of new

Read the entire post –Ring In The New Year In A New Way


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10 Incredible Animal Videos

25 Reasons Americans Don’t Like Dick Cheney

26+ Most Laughable Political Antics of 2008

40+ Things Arianna Huffington Wants To Forget


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Barack Obama = Person of the Year 2008

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Sometimes I want to say something, but I’m not sure what to say.

I left a comment, a couple of weeks ago, on a blog I happened across. The writer was lamenting her estranged husband’s lack of love for her and their child, his continued drinking and his constant belittling of her.

She quoted Pink at the end of her post, “It’s going to be a long way to happiness.”

I was not sure what to write, and I almost did not write anything. Finally, I realized what I had to say,

It might be a long way, but you’ve already begun the journey. It’s not as long as it was yesterday, and tomorrow the road to happiness will be shorter than it is tonight. – deb/dhconcerts

I think I’ll tell myself that, too. 😉

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Exciting Opportunities vs Difficult Situations

In spite of some exciting opportunities and some good time with family, I’ve felt sad and stressed, because of other equally difficult situations. Sometimes, no matter how good the good things are, the bad things just won’t go away.

Are You Feeling Happy Now?

Last night, my nephew asked me, “Are you feeling happy now?”  He had been listening to the adult conversations.  I told him, “Not yet.”

Trying to Make My Heart Happy

Today, there was some resolution to some difficult situations. For that, I was grateful and a little less overwhelmed by stress. But, I still felt so much heaviness, so much sadness, like an overwhelming fatigue.

Maybe If I Make Something In Stained Glass …

I wanted to find something to bring me back to level. I wanted to do something that brings me happiness in order to bring myself back to feeling happy.

Looking Through The Colored Glass

So, I looked at some of the glass I have on the shelf (waiting to be turned into something). I looked at one piece, then another, then another. I decided to take a stack of 12″ x 12″ squares of glass to show the children. They’ve been drawing designs for me, ideas for projects.

I Decided to See If I could Make A Nightlight

I really, really, really wanted to do something that felt good to me, something that would give me a sense of satisfaction. To quote myself, from a quote in my quotes section on the right sidebar, “Creating something is almost always my best solution for finding the good in a bad situation.”

I really do feel that way. Doing something with words or color or sound, ideas or images or some kind of form, just makes me feel better. It helps me find that part of myself that I lose when my life becomes too busy and too energized by negative stress.

I Chose Red Granite Glass and Two Bevels

I wanted to do something easy, something really easy that would not take too long. I just wanted to do something I could start and finish in a short time. I wanted the spark and the joy that come from creating something.

There was very little to do. I marked a pattern on the smooth side of the red granite glass, and scored and broke the glass. I lightly ground the edges of the red piece of cut glass, and wrapped the edges of the two bevels and the red glass with copper foil. I soldered the three pieces together, with the red glass between the two bevels, and rounded the outer edges with solder. I soldered the little metal band to the glass, the band that holds the glass onto the nightlight. Then, I cleaned the glass and the soldered edges to remove the flux. Finally, I secured the metal band around the base of the night light and adjusted the glass to be directly in front of the bulb. The entire process took about an hour and a half.

It Didn’t bring Me To The Top Of The Mountain, But It Brought Me Up

I felt that small stirring inside that bounces around and builds until it creates joy. I’m not back to the joy place yet. I’m still feeling exhausted from having too much going on in my life for too long. (I am a much-too-busy person.) But, I could feel some of that good feeling, and I could smile.  These are steps in the right direction.

This is my first nightlight. I’m telling myself it’s just a test.

The bevels are scratched, because the cats knocked them off the table and they hit the concrete floor (prior to my using them today). And, I’m trying to determine the best size and shape to use for nightlights. But, I did something that gives me happiness. I took a step. I did what I’ve not believed I had time for since mid-summer.

Here are two photos of the night light (glass front) I made this evening. It looks prettier in real life, but this will give an idea of how it looks.



It Is Important To Find (And Do) What Makes You Happy

So much of what I do is motivated by having to be an adult (because I am one). I am an adult, so I must be responsible and work hard and take care of myself. Sometimes, too often, I put off doing the things that are lifegiving. For me, creating something, anything, breathes life into me, heals me, and helps me find rest when I am exhausted. It helps me find a spark of the joy that is so easy to lose when I’m feeling overwhelmed by events in my life.  Creating something helps me make my heart happy.

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Note: This post is a continuation of the thought presented in my gossip post.

Pushing the boulder up the hill

Trying to recover from “concern” voiced behind one’s back, idle chatter, rumor and malicious lies is very much like trying to push a boulder to the top of a hill. It is endless, exhausting and almost surely impossible.


Ha!  I saw this image, and was reminded of the old story of the endless job of rolling the boulder uphill.  Then, I clicked the ‘larger image’ button and discovered that this drawing takes it a step further. There is someone above the stone pushing down. That is an even better illustration of what a person has to overcome when he or she is the object of gossip.


This drawing is by Barry Blitt. It appeared in

The New York TimesDecember 28, 2008


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Pecking the weaker chicken until she bleeds to death

I normally would not quote a church that holds the “homosexuality=sin” belief (since I do not share that belief), but other than that, I agree with this article and think it is worth repeating.

If I could draw, I’d draw a chicken yard with chickens pecking one chicken until she bleeds to death. That’s what I think of gossip.


Here is most of the article:

The Gossip Test

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Eph. 4:29)

Gossip is destructive

Gossip is one of the most destructive forces in the world. It destroys innocent lives and careers; divides families, marriages, businesses, and churches; and it betrays confidence, keeps the embers of a fire stirred until it is out of control, and it is a gross sin … And the worst part of gossip is that most people don’t even recognize when they are doing it. Of course, gossip always hurts the worst when it is directed against us.

Gossip is the antithesis of loving one another

I know many of you have been victims of the loose tongues of others. I know I have. And never once have I ever felt like I benefited from the gossip’s snare … it is the antithesis of loving one another …

Test #1 – “Is it true?”

… there are three tests all repeated words should undergo before they come from our mouths. And I believe those three things are very Scriptural. First, “is it true?” In other words, when we repeat something, will the person we are telling the story about be in complete agreement with it. Nothing untrue about another person should ever come from our lips. I believe that perpetuating a lie is a grievance to both God and the one the lie is told about. And even if the lie is exposed, not everyone who heard the lie will hear the rebuttal. But even those who hear that the lie is just that – a lie – so often they think, “where there is smoke there is fire.”

Test #2 – “Is it useful?”

The second test for repeating words is, “is it useful.” In other words, if it doesn’t meet Paul’s test above – “. . . [is it] helpful for building others up according to their needs, . . .” then it has no place … So often we are quick to criticize others, without finding out the validity of what is spoken. But Scripture is clear, that gossip betrays (Prov. 11:13) and destruction is around the corner … So even if something might be true, will it serve a useful purpose in repeating it?

Test #3 – “Is it kind?”

The third test, akin to the second, “is it kind.” …The words of our mouths should be words which not only build up another person but meets the test of kindness. Mr. Webster defines kindness as the act of being considerate, loving, and generous to another person. Paul says kindness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit of God, (Gal. 5:22) and an act of love (1 Cor. 13:4).

Gossip is only repeated to a listening ear.

Let me add one more admonition. Gossip is only repeated to a listening ear. If someone comes to you with a choice morsel of news … ask them before they say it, “Does it meet the gossip test?” If it does not, then you have no business even hearing it. And if you do hear it, take the person on a biblical walk. Let them know what Scripture says about gossips and gossip. And it has much to say – none good.

Posted by Zion Church at May 4, 2006 10:46 AM

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