The Cost of Being Straight
I don’t know that there is a cost associated with being straight, unless you count the cost of buying a home and bringing up children. But, gay people do that, too.
The Cost of Trying to Be Straight
The cost here would be emotional, psychological and spiritual. What toll is taken when a person spends a lifetime, or part of a lifetime, trying to deny something that is part of the essence of who he or she is?
Perks for Straight, Married Couples
Everyone knows that married people get perks that unmarried people do not get. Visitation rights and decision-making rights for partners are a given when the couple is straight and married. Too many gay couples are kept apart when they most need to be together.
So Much Has Changed. So Much Is Still the Same.
As much as we see people who are famous and ‘out’, and people who are ‘out and proud’, there are at least as many people still living quiet lives under the radar of public opinion. I have never lived in a place where I thought that most gay people were openly gay. It just is not prudent in some parts of the country. Who wants to be made a target or lose a job, or be discriminated against at school, at church or in the neighborhood? God help you if you are famous and gay and your former work was within the organized church.
What About Financial Benefits for Being Straight?
The inequalities between straight couples and gay couples have been written about many times. But, even in this day of legal marriage between two partners who are of the same sex, the benefits that are given to straight married couples do not always apply to gay married couples.
“The High Price of Being a Gay Couple”
Here is another article that looks at the legalized inequalities that gay couples must live with. A straight couple can be married on a whim, after a whirlwind courtship, or during a wild weekend in Las Vegas, and they are automatically given a wide array of financial incentives and benefits. A gay couple can be stable, devoted and committed to each other for a lifetime, and the law never sees them as worthy of the benefits offered to straight couples.