This article caught my eye. That’s not so unusual, many articles catch my eye. But, I like to read explanations of human behavior, and this one had its own special twist.
Does Trying to Feel Good Make You Feel Worse?
That’s pretty much what I got out of this article. It said people spend so much time and money on self-help books and therapists, and they’re all trying to reach the goal of feeling better, but, the author says, trying to feel better only makes some people feel worse (because it highlights how bad they really feel).
Tangled Course of Thought
That’s an interesting perspective. And, I do agree that in certain states of mind, being told that one should feel better would probably only make a person feel worse. But, I don’t think trying to feel better is an entirely bad choice if one is not feeling good.
They Did a Study
The article was actually based on a study, and I (actually) do somewhat agree with their conclusion.
The paper provides support for newer forms of psychotherapy that urge people to accept their negative thoughts and feelings rather than try to reject and fight them. In the fighting, we not only often fail but can also make things worse. Mindfulness and meditation techniques, in contrast, can teach people to put their shortcomings into a larger, more realistic perspective. Call it the power of negative thinking.