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Archive for April, 2010
Tell Those You Love and Those You Work With (Robert’s advice)
I left another comment for Robert. I don’t really understand being married to a woman and talking all the time about being attracted to men, but that’s how it happens over at The Architect’s Garage. Robert does not see himself as ‘gay’, but merely as “having same sex attraction,” and he posts videos of himself talking about “same sex attraction”. I’ve told him many times I do not understand being in a marriage, claiming to love your spouse, and talking constantly about attraction to others outside the marriage. But, he does not see it as a problem. In the video posted today, Robert says people who “have same sex attraction” should be honest with the people in their lives, including family and people at work. I can’t see it when a person is currently married and says he intends to stay that way, but maybe I’m just clueless.
Here’s the Comment I Submitted
If everyone who was sexually abused became gay (as you suggest), LOTS more people would be gay than are gay.
That said, not everyone who is gay was sexually abused. I know you talk about it as if every gay person was sexually abused, but it’s not true.
Also, you make the assumption that everyone who identifies as gay is having sex, or has had sex, with someone of the same sex. Maybe. Maybe not. But, that’s not the issue. Your sexual orientation is part of who you are, whether or not you are with someone of the same sex.
Not having sex with a man does not make you not gay. Being attracted to men the way you are, there’s no question that it is part of who you are and your sexual identity. You just choose not to claim the label. You call it SSA. Other people call the same thing being gay. I’m guessing you’ll identify it as being gay after a few more years.
ps – I agree with the “don’t hide” advice. I don’t really understand telling other people that you are attracted to people outside your marriage. That seems like it could stir up some serious problems. But, in general, telling someone is much healthier than keeping a tightly held secret.
April 25, 2010 11:15 PM
No Creativity Today
This is a totally copied post from DIY Life (Do It Yourself). Here are their categories (in case you want to check out other articles).
Removing Oil-Based Stains From Fabrics
This post tells how to remove oil-based stains from fabrics. For those who take the time to care for their own clothes, this might be helpful. I’m posting it here simply because it looks useful, and this is a place where I’ll probably be able to find it again! 🙂
by Erin Loechner, Posted Mar 25th 2010 8:00AMLightly Soiled Oil-Based Stains
1. Soak the stained area in the hottest water the clothing will tolerate.
2. Add detergent after five minutes of soaking and begin your wash cycle (again, in the hottest water manageable).
3. After a full rinse cycle, check the stained area. If it has vanished, feel free to dry as necessary. If not, repeat another hot rinse cycle with detergent.
1. Rub cornstarch or talcum powder into the stained area and let sit for at least twenty minutes.
2. Brush off with a dry washcloth or soft dry brush.
3. If the stain still exists, repeat the treatment several times to fully remove the oil.
4. Launder in hot water as normal and check area before drying. Repeat if necessary.
Citrus oil or citrus turpine is made from natural, steam distilled citrus oils, which are natural solvents. They are not non-toxic, but have the lowest toxicity of all solvents — and smell wonderful!
1. Dab citrus oil on the stained area with a cotton swab.
2. Cover with a paper towel and run a hot steam iron over the stain.
3. The citrus oil will evaporate, along with the stain!