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Tubing … okay, okay, YouTube-ing … 😉 April 5, 2008

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What Sort of Life Will This Child Have? April 8, 2008

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The Day of Silence Will Soon Be Here – April 25, 2008 April 11, 2008

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Day of Silence – April 25, 2008 April 11, 2008

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For the Procrastinators in the Room … April 15th is Right Around the Corner April 12, 2008

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Hate Crimes and “Special Rights” April 13, 2008

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A Heartfelt Letter, Beautiful Flowers and A Song April 16, 2008

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My Friend Will Be Walking in the AIDS Walk in Charlotte, N.C. Saturday, May 3, 2008 Please Visit His Page and Donate April 17, 2008

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So Sorry Sally Sullied $$$ Opportunities for Oklahoma City Oklahoma April 17, 2008

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Dear Sally Kern,

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I just finished reading this post (and comments) over at Pam’s House Blend: Sally Kern’s bigotry is sinking Oklahoma’s economic ship. Please step back and think about the damage you are doing to the state of Oklahoma.

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Our entire country is experiencing economic problems. Oklahoma is experiencing economic problems, too. If Fortune 500 companies choose NOT to relocate to Oklahoma after hearing about your very-public comments (and the standing ovation you received from your partners in law-making), then you and your colleagues have contributed to the continued economic troubles experienced by the people who elected you to represent them and make their lives better.

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Please try to see Oklahoma through the eyes of people who see it through your words and attitudes. And, please try to see the very real need the people of Oklahoma have for jobs and food and shelter. (These are very basic needs we all have.) And then, please look at how your representation of the state may very well be causing economic harm to the people who chose you to represent them.

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Please think of your constituents, and all the people of Oklahoma, and recognize that your view of the definition of sin is not what pays for food and shelter for your constituents. But, your loud and frequent pronouncements of your definition of sin may be what takes away the possibility of new jobs in Oklahoma.

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You don’t have to stop believing what you believe. But, please stop saying it so loudly that you drive away companies that could help the people you were elected to serve.

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The Journal Record“OKC Chamber: Kern spooks big biz relocation consultant”

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For Anyone Who Cares (In Case You’re Curious)

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How is it a “special right” to have your murder listed as a hate crime when the people who murdered you did so because they did not like who they thought you were? I have a problem with the anti-gay groups who say it is a special right for lgbt persons to be legally protected (by hate crimes legislation).

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Jim Burroway at Box Turtle Bulletin wrote about a gay man who lived in a small town. He was brutally murdered by three men, yet his death did not show up in the hate crime statistics. The circumstances of his murder indicate that he was murdered because he was gay.

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Jim said this murder was one hate crime that fell through the cracks in the reporting system. This is not breaking news. It happened two years ago. But, I believe it is still relevant. You can read the story and, for a moment, honor the memory of yet another good person who was brutally murdered by people who thought he did not deserve to live simply because he was gay.

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The Hate Crimes Act of 1990 requires the FBI to compile and release an annual summary of hate crimes in the United States… Unfortunately, the law doesn’t require local law enforcement agencies to participate in the reporting program, nor is there any funding to offset the costs of collecting and reporting the data.

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To those who use the equation “homosexuality = sin + perversion + wickedness + abomination to God (plus more of these words)”, try to imagine that the person being brutally attacked is your much loved child, your much loved sibling, your much loved parent, your much loved friend or teacher or neighbor or minister. That’s who you are diminishing with your words. That’s who you are refusing to protect when someone uses your verbal attacks as motivation and justification for physical violence.

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Experts have noted that hate crimes based on sexual orientation are often more brutal than the typical assult. Gay bashings … are often characterized by “overkill”, indicating a higher level of emotional reaction on the part of the attacker. This is one distinction which makes hate-motivated crimes different from ordinary crimes, and it partly explains why thirty-one states have hate crime laws which cover sexual orientation.

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Read about Daniel Fetty. As you imagine what happened to him, imagine the same attack happening to someone you love. Is this what you want for your loved ones who happen to be gay or lesbian or bisexual or transgendered? There is a good reason to include sexual orientation in hate crimes legislation. Accurate reporting of hate crimes based on perceived sexual orientation or gender expression would help show that basic protections and equal rights under the law are not “special rights”.

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[UPDATE: September 28, 2008 – NCGayActivist: FBI Does Not Track Gay Murders As Hate Crimes]

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Sally, Sally, Sally. You said it’s your right to say anti-gay things. What happened to, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”? March 16, 2008

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Calling People Terrorists March 17, 2008

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Oklahoma Families to Rally at State Capitol and Call for Meeting with Representative Sally Kern * Solidarity Vigil in Tulsa March 18, 2008

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Sally Kern, by your definition, you are not a thinker. March 20, 2008

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Happy 1st Day of Spring 2008 March 20, 2008

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What Sally Has Wrought March 20, 2008

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Chocolate Easter Bunny Chat March 22, 2008

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15,000 Visits March 22, 2008

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“Lean In For A Kiss” by Deborah L. Hord (FREE mp3 – on the eFolkMusic digital sampler) March 24, 2008

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“Socially Acceptable” by Deborah L. Hord March 24, 2008

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Sally Kern and Scott Jones (openly gay pastor) on KFOR TV on Easter Sunday March 25, 2008

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Just Another Silly Joke – Dolly Parton and Queen Elizabeth … March 25, 2008

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Jeremiah Wright – Barack Obama … Anthropologist Critiques Focus on the Family’s Report on Marriage … Labor of Love (TransMan Pregnant) … Leno – “Give Me Your Gayest Look” March 25, 2008

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OkEq eNews: OkEq in the Advocate March 26, 2008

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Rep. Kern, I have just finished reading the full text of your speech, the one containing the excerpts heard on YouTube, the one from which you said quotes were taken out of context. Rep. Kern, if anything, the YouTube video made you look better than you look when the text of the speech is read in full.

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At one point in the speech, you said students these days are “learners but not thinkers.”

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We’re turning out a citizenry who are learners but not thinkers. By that I mean, they take whatever is thrown at them. They don’t question it. A thinker listens to what’s given to them and then goes and researches and reasons about it and figures out is this right or wrong.

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Rep. Kern, it looks to me like you fit that description, too. You have taken the lies and misinformation presented by certain groups of people, lies and misinformation about ‘gay people’, and you have presented them as fact. This is not a trait I want to see in a teacher, especially not a history teacher. If anything, you have set yourself up as an example of a person who is a learner but not a thinker.

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The full text of your speech is posted on equalrightsproject.com , Rep. Kern. I’m taking the liberty of linking to it and posting it here. What I see in this speech is that you fit your own description of a person who absorbs what she is told and then regurgitates it without looking for truth or using any critical thinking skills.

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You may very well dislike all non-heterosexual people in this world. That is your right. That is your business. But, I would hope you would have enough self-respect not to want to look like someone who does not think and simply spouts the lies fed to you by others.

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Here’s your speech in full. In what way should I believe that you have sought truth, thought for yourself or behaved in an ethical or moral manner befitting a person of your years in education and your current experience in political office? I expect better from a person who spent an entire career in education.

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Uh. . .well first, I have gotten some bills passed in to law, and secondly I was talking with Bill Graves once and he said I think you’re doing a good job and you kinda took up my program and I said, well Bill, thank you, but I’d like to think that it’s somebody bigger than you’s program that I’m doing. But anyway, I am thankful to be here today and I am going to share a number of things so I hope your ears are turned on fast because I want to get through this quickly and I do have. . .the teacher in me didn’t pass these out in advance because I know you’d look at them and read them and not listen to me and I want you to listen to me but I have some information you want to be sure to get, three handouts over there.

I like to call myself a social conservative, okay, and for me a social conservative is more than just being pro-life, and wanting smaller governments, and spending less. It’s whole lot more than that. To me, being a government teacher and a history teacher for about 20 years and loving the beginnings of our nation , I believe being social conservative you have to embrace the principles upon which this nation was founded if you’re going to be a true social conservative.

Now I’d like to start by asking you a question and I’m not going to give you time to answer because I’ll probably, I’ll try to finish before one so if you have any questions you’ll have time to ask me. I have no trouble talking being a school teacher and a minister’s wife, talking just comes with the territory.

But if I were to ask you what is the one thing that has made America great, that makes us unique, what would it be? And then if I were to ask you what is the one thing that is actually destroying this nation, what would be your answer? Now I’m not going to let you give me an answer, Charlie’s already got his hand up. But I’m not going to let you give me an answer, ‘cause I’m just going to tell you what I think the one thing is. Actually what made us great and what is destroying is just like a coin, it’s a flip side. What made us great is that we were a nation founding on Christian principles. Okay, that’s just the bottom line. If you go to the primary sources and read our founding fathers, what they had to say, they gave preferential treatment to Christianity.

They believed, I’m going to share with you in just a minute, five practical benefits of Christianity. So what’s destroying this nation, the fact that we’re leaving the roots upon which we were founded. We are crumbling from within because of the bankruptcy that we have in the moral fiber of this nation and leaving the principles of our founding fathers. Now I’m going to give away this little book, and I don’t know how were going to do it, but you know I’ll let Tom figure that out. It’s by David Barton, “The Practical Benefits of Christianity”. It’s awesome.

I’m briefly going to go through the five practical benefits. You see the thing about religion, religion isn’t just spiritual, it’s practical. What we have in our society today is a dichotomy. If you’re a religious person, that’s personal beliefs and that’s kind like in, you know, private, that’s in the upper story. But if you’re in government, if you’re in school, business, that’s where facts are and you don’t mix the two. Well, you guys, truth is truth. It doesn’t matter what realm of society you are in, truth is truth, there’s cold truth. If you’ve never read the book by Nancy Pearcy called “Cold Truth” you need to read that book. Awesome book. “Cold Truth”, Nancy Pearcy. (transcriptionist Note: actually “Total Truth”)

But there are practical benefits to Christianity. Our founding fathers knew that and that’s why they chose Christianity, the principles of Christianity and most of our founding fathers were believers in Jesus Christ. That’s documented, it’s not just hearsay. It’s documented.

What are the five practical benefits? First is, a civilized society. And civilized, according the Webster’s Dictionary, 1828 dictionary, ‘civilized’ means decent, respectful, moral behavior. That’s what civilized means. And we can stop and look at our society today and we don’t have a very civilized society because we can see all kinds of depravity all the time. Our founding fathers believed that our government was a self-government and you can only have self-government if you have individual governence in your own life. And the less people are controlled by any restraints the more government you have to have to control them. That’s just. . .we see that happening all the time. So they believed that we needed a civilized society. They also believed that Christian principles were the very reason for the way that our society was going to exist is because, and it goes back again to, you have to have self-governence.

One of our first Speakers of the House, and I never can remember his name, but he said men will be governed either by internal restraints or external restraints. Either by the bayonet or by the Bible. So we need to have the principles of Christianity for our society to exist.

Another practical benefit of Christianity is just good citizenship. Good citizens, okay. You know it doesn’t matter if we live next door to an atheist, an infidel, or whatever, if they believe in a basic principle of right and wrong, which used to always be the ten commandments, if they’re not going to come over and kill me or steal my stuff, or go after my husband and things like that, I can live next to them. No problem. People used to know what was right and what was considered wrong. Today, it’s left up to anybody’s, you know, discretion and that won’t work.

Another practical benefit of Christianity was the elevation of knowledge, of learning, of science, okay, of the arts. They believed, matter of fact, Thomas Payne who wrote “Age of Reason” where he tried to say you don’t need religion, you should keep it out of the public sector. Ben Franklin wrote him a letter and Ben Franklin, arguably is one of our lesser considered religious leaders, but he said to Thomas Payne don’t write that book, don’t publish that book. He said it will do you harm, it will do our nation harm. You know, he believed that we needed to have a society that was based upon Christian principles because elevation of science, elevation of knowledge is very important if you’re going to have an informed public. And I believe it was Thomas Payne also said, you know, you can look at a picture and it makes you think of the artist, you can look at some kind of invention and you think of the inventor. Why is it that we look at the creation and we don’t think about the creator. You know, we don’t do that. And if we really had Christian principles our educational system would not be in the mess it is in today. I could give you lots of quotes about, oh Benjamin Rush and Noah Webster and Fisher Ames who actually penned the first amendment, the things they had to say about the main book in school should be the Bible. There’s a lot of stuff about that that’s really important and we certainly got away from it.

Another practical benefit, the last one, of Christianity is a cohesive value system. A cohesive value system. We don’t have that today. And you know we think, we hear this all the time, we are such a large society today, we have such diversity in all these different religions and ethnic backgrounds and everything, you can’t have a cohesive value system. Well, we didn’t just have that right now. You can go back read some of the writings of John Adams, and he talks about the diverse society that they had back at the beginning of this nation. So Christian principles are very important in order to have a cohesive value system. So regardless of what your faith is you can live together. We have gotten away from these principles and it is affecting our lives today.

One of the main ways, and this is something I’m going to talk about a lot today, that is affecting our lives, is in the gay agenda. Now I’m not a gay basher, okay. When I taught school three doors down from me was one of the most obnoxious gay people that you can mention. If I named him you probably have seen him. He writes in the paper all the time and everything. But you know, he has the right to practice that life-style if he chooses but he does not have the right to indoctrinate his classes. You know, that’s not what education is about. But what we see happening today is the homosexual agenda is destroying this nation. Okay, it’s just a fact. If you’ve never read, here’s another book, “The Criminalization of Christianity” by Janet Folger. Every Christian ought to read that book, “The Criminalization of Christianity”. It is an awesome book and if that doesn’t scare you and motivate you, something’s wrong.

And here’s the problem, the gay people are motivated. If we as, whether you’re a Christian or not, if you’re just a good conservative, if we were as motivated as the gay people were, the contest would be over. That’s just all there is to it. It would be over. But we aren’t motivated. I think we’ve been suckered by this lie of separation of church and state. But there is a new phenomenon going on, has been going on since the last four years in the gay movement and it’s been headed by a gentleman by the name of Tim Gill. He’s a software mogul guy who sold his Quark, Q-U-A-R-K, however you say that, he sold it for billions of dollars. He contributed 30 million dollars in ’06 to races. He contributed that money to local races, state races and governor races. He gives money, yes to, on the federal level but primarily it’s on the local level because his philosophy is this: if we’re gonna really make changes, we’re going to have to do it locally. And what’s the saying we always hear and we know, all politics is local. And he along with a lot of other gay activists are very disappointed in the national democratic party because they’ve not, you know they say, they promise all this stuff, you know we’ll acknowledge gays and etc., etc., but when it comes down to really doing policy in Congress, what’s always the first to go? The gay agenda stuff, because those democrats, they don’t want to alienate their base. So Tim Gill along with a bunch of other people, some other millionaires, billionaires have decided that the way to handle it is on the local level. And they contributed last year over 30 million dollars to state races. They targeted 13 states. They targeted 70 local politicians. They took out 50 of them. Tim Gill’s goal is within 10 years to change the face of politics to make to where there is equality to all people, all lifestyles.

Now, I don’t know about you, but the book that I base my life upon is God’s word. And it says to love everybody and I try to love everybody but not everybody’s lifestyle is equal. Just like not all religions are equal. Okay. All money isn’t equal. You know, we have this dumb idea now days, that tolerance means that everything is equal. Well, everything is not equal. We see that in many areas of our lives. You know, all things are not equal. All religions are not equal.

But, uh, let me just read you some things. Tim Gill along with four other, three other people, let me find this here. I’ve got so much information, there’s no way I can get all of this to you today, but I have it for you to read yourself. Along with a woman by the name of, I think it’s Pat Stryker, and then her brother John Stryker. . .I know I’ve got them right here, I’ll try to fish them out. . .Pat Stryker, Jared Polis and Rutt Bridges, they all right now are in Colorado and they have changed the face of Colorado. For 40 years Colorado’s legislature was in the hands of Republicans in ’06 it changed to hands of the Democrats. And the main reason is because they’re pushing, these four people, along with other people, and I have a list of them here, the top ones, that you can see, , , and this is important because when you start looking at who’s contributing to races, say that particular statewide race we’re all concerned about, look for some of these names. They don’t give more than a 1000 dollars because they don’t want to draw attention, okay, but they will give up to a 1000 dollars and so you start looking for these names. And what they do, their strategy is very under-the-table, very stealth, and their goal is to find state legislatures that are very tight in their, you know, republican/democrat, and if just a few races can make the difference to switch it from republican to democrat, they’re going to target that. And their goal is, in doing that, to intimidate republicans.

Now the problem we have, I think it’s a problem, we’ve got some moderate republicans who think it doesn’t matter what your lifestyle is, it doesn’t matter if you’re gay, it doesn’t matter if you’re for civil unions, you know. And you notice, the goal is, they’re pushing civil unions right now. That used to be unheard of, but now that’s pretty much acceptable. A lot of republicans are going for civil unions, okay. So you know what’s going to happen next, 10 years from now, it’s going to be gay marriage. Okay, they’re taking little by little, they’re taking ground little by little but they’re doing it quietly, under-the-table. They’re going into states where the races are close; they’re putting in lots of money; and not only that, they’re putting people on the ground. Let me read you this. Here this was really, I thought really interesting, I just want to read it. The key, this is from a guy by the name of Ted Trimpa, he’s kinda like the Karl Rove for Tim Gill. “They key to success is real grassroots, organizing, knocking at the doors, and knock on them again and don’t go turn out the gay vote, go knock on the swing doors as well,” he says. “Knock on every door and knock day, after day, after day.”

They took out in Iowa a guy by the name of Danny Carol who was the speaker pro-temp in the house. He thought his race was safe. He lost, a surprise loss. They put people on the ground, young college kids with their ipods going from door to door. Not just democrats, though, also republicans, trying to find those swing voters but they do it time and time again. They say it’s expensive and time consuming but it is the absolute right way to do real grassroots politics, door to door, talking to the voters, having gay people go to them, allies of ours go to each of them, walk them through and you flip votes one by one. It’s a strategy that works both in the legislature and in the field. They quote Tim Gill on another aspect of their political strategy. Tim says “you have to turn down the volume of opponent’s ‘anti’ rhetoric. They can’t just say and do everything with license. They have to know beforehand that it’s going to cost them some votes and some serious money to play like that. It certainly doesn’t stop it, but it turns it way down, and then when they do spew any ‘anti’ rhetoric, they look extreme. You have to create an environment of fear and respect,’ said Tim Gill . ”The only way to do that is to get aggressive and go out and actually beat them up politically. Sitting there crying and whining about being victims isn’t going to get us equality. What is going to get us equality is fighting for it.”

What they’re trying to do is send a message of intimidation to those people who are taking a stand for traditional marriage and against the homosexual lifestyle. They want to silence us, is what they want to do. And it’s happening all over the state. You know, the very fact that I’m talking to you like this, here today, puts me in jeopardy. Okay, and so, so be it. Okay, and I’m not ‘anti’, I’m not gay bashing, but according to God’s word that is not the right kind of lifestyle. It has deadly consequences for those people involved in it. They have more suicides and they’re more discouraged, there’s more illness, their life spans are shorter. You know, it’s not a lifestyle that is good for this nation. Matter of fact, studies show no society that has totally embraced homosexuality has lasted more than, you know, a few decades. So it’s the death knell for this country. I honestly think it’s the biggest threat even, that our nation has, even more so than terrorism or Islam, which I think is a big threat, okay. Because what’s happening now, they’re going after, in schools, two year olds. You know what they’re trying to get early childhood education? They want to get our young children into the government schools so they can indoctrinate them. I taught school for close to 20 years and we’re not teaching facts and knowledge anymore, folks, we’re teaching indoctrination. Okay? We’re turning out a citizenry who are learners but not thinkers. By that I mean, they take whatever is thrown at them. They don’t question it. A thinker listens to what’s given to them and then goes and researches and reasons about it and figures out is this right or wrong. We aren’t developing students like that today. We’re developing students who will do whatever the elites want. That’s what we’re headed toward and they’re going after our young children as young as two years of age to try to teach them that the homosexual lifestyle is an acceptable lifestyle. And there are programs they’re going after in school. It just, uh, I’m not going to say anymore about that because I have the material over there. You really need to read this article, seven pages, but read it. It has some interesting stuff in it. It will show you their strategy and we need to be forewarned.

Okay, now, where are the social conservative billionaires? I want to suggest to you that they are few and far between. Okay. We’ve got some, but they don’t give money the way the gay philanthropists are giving their money, okay. And unfortunately I see a lot of our millionaire conservatives are really bought into big business and even big government and they don’t support social conservatism. And I think that’s a mistake. But in 10 years time our whole landscape, political landscape, could be changed if we don’t start giving money, we social conservatives, people who have it, start giving money to candidates who will stand up for what is right, instead of buckling under this. So, it’s just happening to us right and left.

You know gays are infiltrating city councils. Did you know, Eureka Springs, anybody been there to the Passion Play? Have you heard that the city council of Eureka Springs is now controlled by gays. Okay. There are some others, Pittsburg, Pennsylvania, Tacoma, Maryland, Kinsington, Maryland, in Vermont, Oregon, West Palm Beach, Florida and a lot of other places in Florida. What’s happening? The homosexuals are getting involved politically on the most local level there is, city council, city government and they are winning elections and the first thing they’re doing is passing, uh, laws, anti-discrimination laws and hate laws and things like that and, uh, you know, one of the things I deal with in our legislature is, I tried to introduce a bill last year that would notify parents, schools had to let parents know what clubs their students were involved in. And the reason I did that bill, primarily, was this, we have the gay/straight alliance coming into our schools. And we had parents say, if I knew my child was involved in that group I wouldn’t let them. Kids are getting involved in these groups, their lives are being ruined, their parents don’t know about it. So I introduced a bill that said you have to notify all clubs and things. And one of my colleagues said, ‘well you know we don’t have a gay problem in my community and that’s why I voted against that bill.” Well, you know what? To me that is so dumb. If you got cancer or something in your little toe, do you say, well you know, I’m just going to forget about it because the rest of me is just fine. It spreads, and this stuff is deadly and it’s spreading and will destroy our young people and it will destroy this nation.

But they’re going after city councils, they’re influencing schools sex-ed at schools. Respect for differences in human sexuality is a big sex-ed program they’re trying to get into all the schools. And basically what is, it’s teaching that you have to be tolerant, you have to accept homosexuality.

This brings in our libraries. Okay, you know I believe in the principle as a person thinks, as a man thinks, so is he. That’s why we have to be careful about what we read, what we watch, things like that, what music we listen to and stuff because what goes in is what comes out. Garbage in, garbage out. We know that with computers. You know, what you put in is what you get out. Okay. You take our young minds and the garbage that they’re reading in our libraries and I mean it’s garbage. I should have thought and brought you some excerpts of some of the stuff that, uh, I mean there’s no literary value to it at all. It is pure filth. The language, the acts, the things that are going on and yet our kids are reading it, I mean, they are reading in the droves. Okay. Kids go home and I see some high school kids couldn’t wait to get out so they could go home and see their favorite soap opera. And I tell them, look, that is not real life. They do anything they want and don’t suffer consequences. In real life you got consequences.

So, uh, hate crimes, this leads to hate crimes. If we have hate crimes our free speech will be silenced. Okay. You know I’m not a lawyer, but I think I know enough about this. Law should be dealing with our actions, not with what we are thinking. Nobody can read my mind; nobody can read your mind. Okay. If two little old ladies are both murdered, you know, and one’s gay and other isn’t, why should the one that was gay, her murderers receive a harsher crime than the one’s who murdered the other little old lady? They’re both dead. You know, murder is murder. So we’ve gotta watch; they are coming after these kinds of bills.

Another thing that I’m real big on that is a real detriment to this society is evolution. Evolution undermines Christian principles. Period. That’s all there is to it. You either believe there is a creator or you believe there isn’t. Some people say well I believe there is a creator and he used evolution. There’s a lot of problems there folks. When does sin come in, when does the spirit come in? You know, it’s evolution. You read God’s word and you will see the word creation all through it, old and new testament. And it undermines people’s faith. They have trouble reading or believing the Bible.

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More about Sally Kern on Deb’s House Concerts:
I’m Listening March 8, 2008
Good As You responds to Sally Kearn’s response to the public’s response to her … March 10, 2008
Oklahomans for Equality Denounce Rep. Sally Kearn’s Anti-Gay Speech March 11, 2008
KOCO Oklahoma City News 5 talks to Sally Kearn, Chuck Wolfe of the Victory Fund, Oklahoma Muslims March 12, 2008
Good As You posts video of Ellen Degeneres calling Oklahoma Representative Sally Kearn March 12, 2008
Absolutely beautiful letter, thoughtful and well written, from an Oklahoma high school senior who lost his mother in the Oklahoma City bombing terrorist attack (to OK Rep. Sally Kearn who said gay people are worse than terrorists) March 13, 2008
My Apology to Sally Kern (formerly referred to as Sally Kearn) March 13, 2008
Advocacy Alert: Oklahomans for Equality hosts press conference regarding Rep. Sally Kern March 13, 2008
Sally, Sally, Sally. You said it’s your right to say anti-gay things. What happened to, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”? March 16, 2008
Calling People Terrorists March 17, 2008
Oklahoma Families to Rally at State Capitol and Call for Meeting with Representative Sally Kern * Solidarity Vigil in Tulsa March 18, 2008
Sally Kern, by your definition, you are not a thinker. March 20, 2008
What Sally Has Wrought March 20, 2008

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Dear Rep. Kern,

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One of the categories I use for posts about issues related to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transexual issues is “Health”. Rep. Kern, in your public words against gay people, you said “the homosexual lifestyle” is unhealthy. That’s one of those talking points the anti-gay groups like to use. You used it as if it were truth. I’d like to ask you to consider what the truth really is.

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I agree that kids and young adults who are constantly made to feel ‘less than’ in their families, schools, churches and in society may very well be at a higher risk for health issues such as depression, suicide, substance abuse and risky sexual behaviors. That applies to straight kids as well as gay kids. Fortunately for straight kids, the lifelong pressures they experience are for them to conform to a sexual identity norm that matches who they are inside. Unfortunately for gay kids, the outside message from birth does not match what is inside. It is especially difficult when the voices heard are ones that call names at school and church and in the public media.

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I agree that some gay people experience depression, but it is not from being gay. Where I differ from you Rep. Kern (and those who share your anti-gay mindset) is in the reason attached to those health issues. You want everyone to believe that lgbt people are depressed and suicidal and unhealthy because of being gay. I say, NO. You have it all backwards. Gay people (glbt) who are depressed or suicidal are not that way because they are gay. They are that way because they have spent their entire lives being marginalized, made to feel shame, being made the butt of jokes, being bullied or discriminated against, being told they are “wicked, evil, perverts, an abomination to God” and being made to hide who they are because of attitudes like yours.

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It should be no surprise that people who are made to feel ashamed at home, church, school and in society at large by being spoken against for an entire lifetime might experience depression. Many gay people live in hiding (live quiet lives with a partner rather than living as openly gay) because of people like you. This is sad, but it is a reality for many, because it is difficult to go through life without support for something as basic as who one is and who one loves.

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It should not be difficult for anyone, even you (plural) who speak out against “the homosexual lifestyle” to realize that your words hurt people. You hurt good and loving people. You hurt kids who already know they are ‘different’, and know they are unacceptable to you and people who think like you. You (always plural) cause harm to thousands (not to mention those who you know and love) by your refusal to accept people who have every bit as much right to live and love as you do.

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Instead of spending tax-payer money (or church member money) on working to cause further hurt to people who have been marginalize for a lifetime, why not spend your efforts making it possible for gay couples to live openly as partners, even to be open and legally committed to each other? Why waste everyone’s time and money trying to demonize people who want only to live in peace and have the same basic rights you have?

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Instead of saying “the gay lifestyle” is unhealthy, why not work to make this world safe for gay people (and thereby reduce the incredible stress that comes with having to hide from people with attitudes like yours)? Why not work to assure that everyone has the same basic rights? We are all guaranteed the same basic equal rights by the Constitution, are we not? What makes you more valuable as a human being than another person? Why do you work so hard to keep others in a ‘less than’ status? Would you want to be kept out of your beloved spouse’s hospital room? Would you want the law to take away the shared property you have built together for years and give it to distant relatives? Would you want someone other than your spouse to make decisions about your health care and your end of life wishes? People who can marry have those rights automatically. Gay people must go to great lengths to set up legal documents to protect them from these scenarios.

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Gay people are not the villains you describe. To the contrary, you have set yourself against thousands of good, hard-working, law-abiding, committed individuals who must struggle daily against attitudes like yours (and, the laws that result from those attitudes).

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Rep. Kern (and all those who think and speak like Rep. Kern), why not step back for a moment from this misguided agenda that you push? How about just stopping for a moment and focusing on the words of the One you claim to follow. Jesus never said a negative word about same-sex relationships. But, he certainly said a lot about other things. He said a lot about love. He said a lot about how we should treat each other.

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If you (all who make it your business to say anti-gay things at every opportunity) are really concerned about the health and lives and welfare of gay people, how about following the real teachings of Jesus (not the fund-raising scare tactics anti-gay groups use to line their own pockets and pay their own salaries)? Speaking out against gay people is a big money-maker, because it’s a great way to appeal to ignorance and fear. But, it is not loving. It is not Christian. It is not following the teachings of Christ (as most of the anti-gay groups claim to be doing).

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If you (all of you who make gay people into godless villains) really love gay people (as you claim to) ,and if you are really concerned about the welfare of gay people, and if you really want gay people to be healthy and happy, how about practicing the teachings of the One you claim to follow? You want the health of gay people to improve? How about helping that happen by working to recognize the lives and loves of same-sex couples in a positive way? How about looking around you and seeing that there are not many open and out gay families (although there are more and more) because of the life-long message that gay people are not fully welcomed in this world? Wouldn’t you have some struggles with depression if you were spoken against and lied about daily by people who don’t even know you?

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I wrote to you a few days ago. I know you are swamped with email, so I did not send you my letter. I only posted it here. But, I want to ask you again to consider the harm that you do with your words. I will say again, I am certain that every family (if not nuclear, then extended) has at least one member who does not fit your definition of acceptable (by virtue of being gay), and every person knows at least one person (most likely many more) who is gay (glbt, lgbt). I want to appeal to you again, you and all who think like you, to stop for a moment. Let all that anti-gay noise in your head stop long enough to consider the One you claim to follow, the One you claim to represent with your anti-gay attitudes and words. What Would Jesus Do? There is no question in my mind that Jesus would not say the things you say, and Jesus would not work to pass legislation to guarantee discrimination.

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Rep. Kern, there are resources you can use to learn more about what is true about gay people. The sources you have quoted as your source of truth are not truth at all. I visited some of those sites. I listened to your radio interview. You have surrounded yourself with lies and misinformation. And, you are spreading lies and misinformation. As I said in my previous letter to you, I would like to think you would DO better if you KNEW better. This may not be true. I may be hoping you are a better person than you are. But, I want to believe that if you knew the truth about who gay people are, not just the lies spouted by the anti-gay groups you quote, you’d know better and do better.

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Here are a few links, just a few to get you started. Please visit these sites and learn more about the people you speak against before you speak again.

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Parents and the Ex-Gay Movement

Soulforce

PFLAG

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Deborah
Deb’s House Concerts
https://dhconcerts.wordpress.com
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More about Sally Kern on Deb’s House Concerts:
I’m Listening March 8, 2008
Good As You responds to Sally Kearn’s response to the public’s response to her … March 10, 2008
Oklahomans for Equality Denounce Rep. Sally Kearn’s Anti-Gay Speech March 11, 2008
KOCO Oklahoma City News 5 talks to Sally Kearn, Chuck Wolfe of the Victory Fund, Oklahoma Muslims March 12, 2008
Good As You posts video of Ellen Degeneres calling Oklahoma Representative Sally Kearn March 12, 2008
Absolutely beautiful letter, thoughtful and well written, from an Oklahoma high school senior who lost his mother in the Oklahoma City bombing terrorist attack (to OK Rep. Sally Kearn who said gay people are worse than terrorists) March 13, 2008
My Apology to Sally Kern (formerly referred to as Sally Kearn) March 13, 2008
Advocacy Alert: Oklahomans for Equality hosts press conference regarding Rep. Sally Kern March 13, 2008
Sally, Sally, Sally. You said it’s your right to say anti-gay things. What happened to, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”? March 16, 2008
Calling People Terrorists March 17, 2008
Oklahoma Families to Rally at State Capitol and Call for Meeting with Representative Sally Kern * Solidarity Vigil in Tulsa March 18, 2008
Sally Kern, by your definition, you are not a thinker. March 20, 2008
What Sally Has Wrought March 20, 2008

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