If you add one blog to your daily reading, add Carol Boltz’s “My Heart Goes Out”. She is right on target every time.
Here’s the title of her most recent post:
Saturday, January 31, 2009
EX-GAY THERAPY….THEY MAKE YOU STRAIGHT ENOUGH TO SLEEP WITH A WOMAN, LONG ENOUGH TO BREAK HER HEART
Here’s a bit of the post:
The family of Ted and Gayle Haggard have been in a spotlight for years, and Ted was always gay. He built a mega-church, and he was gay. He preached, and organized, and inspired, and he was gay that whole time. Whether or not he was having gay sex, or whether or not it ever would have been reported, he was gay. God used him tremendously in building that church and as loved as he was with his congregants, he was always gay. He should have been 100% faithful to his wife, and there is where he failed. He did not fail in being attracted to men. He now admits both of those things to be true.
Here’s my comment:
This really says it all. He was always gay. He started that church and made it a big success (by the standards used by huge churches) while he was gay. People loved him. He did a lot of good things for his organization.
Then, BAM! He was suddenly an outcast, an embarrassment, a has-been. They tried to make him disappear and go away while trying to make sure he would continue to lie about his attraction to men. Why?
I wish he could be honest with himself and his wife, so they could both just move on. If he were honest, he could use his celebrity to help other hurting gay people (rather than to set a bad example of lying to self and others).
Ted Haggard is a celebrity. I hope some day he will use that fame to speak the truth about sexuality, and to influence people to love and accept gay people (whether self or others) instead of rejecting and condemning.
related – Do Ex-Gays Hook Up In Ex-Gay Programs? (stories about the Ex-Gay Movement from an EX-ex-gay man)
“They think, of course, being gay is all about having sex …
And, it was only after I left these programs that I realized being gay is a lot of things. It’s not just about sex, and I can have all kinds of interactions with other gay guys. It does not include simply having sex.
In a lot of these programs, I actually got more misinformation than help … they intended to do good, they were just so woefully ignorant of sexuality, human nature, and the Bible …
See also:BeyondExGay.com PetersonToscano.com Peterson Toscano’s A Musing Why Ex-Gay Survivors?